October is domestic violence awareness month, and as a prosecutor for the City of Alexandria, I am confronted with the realities of domestic violence on a daily basis. What I have come to learn is that, despite what many people think, domestic violence is not just punches, black eyes, bruises and stitches. Domestic violence is yelling, humiliation, stalking, manipulation, coercion, threats and isolation. It's stealing a paycheck, keeping tabs online, non-stop texting, constant use of the silent treatment, or calling someone stupid or dumb so many times that the victim comes to actually believe it. It involves behavior that is used to establish power and control over another person, often through fear and intimidation over a period of time, using threats and verbal and emotional abuse.